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Heartbreak feels like a death no one prepares you for.
Not just the loss of a person—but the loss of what could’ve been. The routines. The dreams. The little inside jokes that made the world feel warmer.
You wake up in the morning and for a few seconds, you forget. And then it hits you again—the ache in your chest, the silence on your phone, the cruel stillness where there used to be life.
You scroll through old texts.
You reread that last conversation for the 20th time.
You ask yourself things you may never get answers to.
“Did I love too hard?”
“Was I not enough?”
“Did he ever even mean it?”
Let me stop you right there.
You were not too much.
You were not wrong to love.
And this pain? As unbearable as it feels now—
It’s not your ending. It’s your beginning.
Let’s walk through this. Together.
1. Let Yourself Feel It All
Please don’t pretend you’re fine if you’re not.
You don’t have to be strong every second.
You don’t have to smile when your heart is in pieces.
Cry.
Scream into your pillow.
Stare at the ceiling and feel that emptiness.
Healing doesn’t happen by pretending the pain isn’t there. It happens when you walk through it. Slowly. Kindly.
Every tear? It’s proof you loved bravely.
And there’s no shame in that. Ever.
2. Unfollow, Delete, Detach
I know, it’s hard.
It feels like cutting the last thread between you and him.
But babe, how can you start healing if the wound keeps getting reopened?
Unfollow him—not to be petty, but to protect your peace.
Delete the chat. Archive the pictures. Not because those moments didn’t matter… but because your mental health matters more.
You don’t need reminders of someone who didn’t stay.
You need room to breathe again.
3. Remember Who You Were Before Him
This one’s tender. Because somewhere along the way, we lose little pieces of ourselves in loving someone else.
But before him, there was you.
You, with your laugh that made people smile.
You, dancing around in your room with no one watching.
You, full of messy hope and fierce light.
She didn’t disappear. She’s just buried beneath the pain right now.
Pick up the paintbrush. Call that old friend. Listen to that silly song you used to play on repeat.
Not to forget him—but to remember you.
4. Journal the Truth—Not Just the Fantasy
It’s easy to miss the potential.
To miss who he could have been, not who he was.
But healing means telling yourself the truth.
Write it down.
What hurt you.
What you tolerated.
What wasn’t okay.
Don’t let your mind romanticize someone who didn’t show up for your heart.
Sometimes we grieve who we thought they were, not who they actually showed us they were.
5. Create a New Routine
One of the hardest parts after a breakup?
Losing the rhythm.
No more “good morning” texts.
No more planning weekends around him.
But you get to create something new now. Something that’s all yours.
Wake up and stretch.
Drink your tea slowly.
Journal while the sun rises.
Play music while you shower.
These little rituals? They’re tiny anchors that remind your nervous system:
“I am safe. I am okay. I am healing.”
6. Learn the Lesson—Not the Blame
This one’s tough.
Because the mind wants to rewind, dissect, analyze.
“Maybe I was too sensitive…”
“Maybe I pushed him away…”
Stop, love. Just stop.
This wasn’t a test you failed.
This was a mirror—a reflection of what still needs healing in you, not what you lacked.
Take the lesson. Sure.
But leave the guilt.
It doesn’t belong to you.
7. When You’re Ready… Open Your Heart Again
You don’t have to rush this part.
But I promise—one day, someone will come along and your heart will flutter again.
And this time?
You’ll love wiser.
You’ll ask better questions.
You’ll recognize red flags faster.
Because now, you know what safety feels like—and what it doesn’t.
You’ll realize not everyone deserves your softness.
And the one who does?
He won’t play with it—he’ll protect it.
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If you’re scared of falling for the wrong person again…
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Final Words (the ones I needed too…)
You are allowed to miss him.
You are allowed to cry in the shower.
You are allowed to still feel that ache when your phone lights up and it’s not him.
But don’t stay in that place.
Don’t let it define you.
Pick up your heart—no matter how many cracks it has.
Wrap it in soft grace.
And walk forward—not because it doesn’t hurt…
But because you were never meant to stay broken.
He may have left.
But you, my darling, are still here.
And She Deserves Love—the kind that stays. The kind that builds.
The kind that never makes her question if she’s too much.
💔
With all my love,
A woman who cried, healed, and came back stronger than ever